I had a funny recollection today of a conversation I had my third year of law school with one of my professors. We were discussing having children v. having a highly intense legal career. She said, in response to my question about whether you should put off having children, “Oh, that’s easy. One, you can only do for a little while; the other, you can do whenever.”
I nodded slowly. Finally, I asked: “Just to be clear, which one is which?”
“The kid is the one that you can only do for a while.” She didn’t even laugh at me.
Now that I have two kids under three, I can see exactly what she meant. I’m not sure I would have the energy to do it at 40!